IF ANXIETY, OVERWHELM, OR EMOTIONAL SHUTDOWN ARE YOUR NORM, YOU’RE NOT ALONE.
Therapy for breaking cycles of anxiety and self sabotage in Carlsbad, CA and Online.
I help people who feel stuck in cycles of anxiety and self-sabotage—on the outside they look fine, but inside they’re overwhelmed and worn out.
Feeling constantly on edge or anxious, even when everything seems fine?
Some days it feels like you’re just moving through the motions. On the surface, everything looks fine—but inside, something feels off. Your body stays tight, restless, or heavy, even when nothing obvious is happening.
It’s hard to put words to it. You might notice yourself zoning out, getting stuck in the same routines, or feeling unsettled without knowing why. And then the self-criticism creeps in: “Why can’t I just figure this out?”
You may be saying to yourself…
“Something doesn’t feel right, but I can’t explain it.”
“I keep repeating the same patterns, even when I don’t want to.”
“I wish I could feel more present and less caught up inside.”
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. These patterns aren’t proof that something’s wrong with you—they’re signals from your body and old belief systems that once felt protective. Together, we’ll explore what’s underneath and create new ways of responding, so you can feel more steady and connected in your life.
If anxiety and self-sabotage keep running the show, I’ll help you step out of old patterns and find a calmer, more confident way forward.
Why You Feel Stuck in the Same Cycles
These patterns aren’t flaws—they’re protective habits your mind and body created to keep you safe. They worked once, but now they leave you anxious, disconnected, or second-guessing yourself.
Signs You Might Be Caught in the Loop
Restless or tense, even when nothing’s wrong
Repeating patterns you want to change
Feeling disconnected or on autopilot
Self-criticism that won’t let up
A Different Way Forward
It’s frustrating—you know you don’t want to keep living this way, but the old patterns keep pulling you back. Together, we’ll look at the stories you carry and how your body holds them, so you can begin to respond differently and build a steadier way of living.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
You’re not broken. With the right support, you can move out of autopilot and into a life that feels grounded, connected, and free.
How therapy works
Breaking the Cycle Together
Therapy isn’t about “fixing” yourself or forcing your emotions away. It’s about slowing down enough to notice what your body and mind are trying to tell you—and learning how to respond differently.
You don’t have to come in with the perfect words or a clear plan. This is a space where you can show up exactly as you are—uncertain, tired, or overwhelmed—and still be met with compassion.
Here’s what our work might include:
Exploring the patterns that keep pulling you back
Understanding how your nervous system reacts—and how to shift it
Building tools that help you pause instead of spiral
Softening the inner critic with self-compassion
Learning new ways to respond that feel more steady and aligned
We’ll use a mix of talk therapy and body-based practices, and if faith is important to you, we can bring that in too. Everything is tailored to your pace and your goals.
This isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about creating change that actually lasts—so you can step out of the loop and feel more connected to yourself and your life.
FAQs
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It’s common to feel like these patterns are “just who you are.” But most of the time, they’re habits your body and mind learned along the way to help you cope or stay safe. They might feel permanent, but they don’t have to be.
Therapy gives you space to notice those patterns, understand where they come from, and practice new ways of responding. Change doesn’t mean becoming a different person—it means creating more freedom to live in a way that actually feels like you.
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You don’t need to come in with the perfect words or a clear story. Many people I work with describe feeling “off,” stuck, or disconnected without knowing exactly why. That’s completely okay.
Part of our work together is slowing down enough to notice what’s happening in your body and your patterns, even when you can’t name it right away. Therapy is less about having all the answers, and more about creating the space to discover them safely, at your own pace.
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The first step is just a conversation. We’ll set up a free 15-minute consultation where you can share a little about what’s been going on and what you’re hoping for. It’s simply a chance to ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and see if it feels like a good fit for you—no pressure.